Anger Management .. Islamically

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Anger Management .. Islamically

Anger is
"an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to
intense fury and rage," (Spielberger).Although anger is a natural emotion,
a person may express it in a manner that could result in violence and
destructive acts. In fact, as noted in the Qur'an, Allah says:

"And
when your Lord said to the angels, "I am creating successors on the
earth." They said, "Will You create on it those who will spread
corruption and spill blood, although we celebrate Your praise and extol Your
Holiness?" He said," I know what you do not know." (Qur'an2:30)

Anger can
be caused by both external and internal issues. You could be angry at a
specific person (such as a co-worker or supervisor), or your anger could be
caused by your personal problems, such as the remembrance of a disagreement
with your spouse or parent. Anger itself isn't inherently bad. When
appropriate, it can motivate you to deal with problems, or it can signal to
others that their behavior is not acceptable. However, if minor issues - such
as someone cutting in front of you in a queue - set you off, or if you're
simmering in a constant state of rage, you may have to get your anger under
control to pre-empt any violent or destructive outcomes.

Just how
angry are you? The Chart below is from the Mayo Clinic. Study the following
words describing various states of anger and rate yourself on a scale of 0 to 5
with respect to each word. (You can also get someone who knows you well to rate
you.)

0 = Not at
all accurate
1 = Somewhat accurate
2 = Moderately accurate
3 = Very accurate
4 = Extremely accurate

Words	Your Rating
Livid
Angry
Bitter
Rebellious
Spiteful
Deceived
Annoyed
Furious
Resentful
Bad-tempered
Ready to fight
Yelling
Irritated
Frustrated
Disappointed

If you
have several 2, 3 and 4 ratings, you should seek professional help in learning
how to manage anger in a healthier and more constructive way.

Study
your anger patterns

Anger
responses can become habitual. That is, you may respond automatically to a
situation that upsets you. How do you express your anger? Consider these
questions in gauging your anger responses:

Do you get
angry more often than most people you know?
Do you use
threatening language or gestures?
Do you get
angry enough to hit, throw things or others?
Do you stay
angry for long periods of time (days or hours)?
Do you conceal
angry feelings from others or try to hold in your feelings?
Do you use
drugs to calm yourself down?
Do you
experience physical reactions such as muscle tension when angry?
Do you get
angry and then wonder why you got angry over such a trifle?

How
people deal with anger

People use
both conscious and unconscious processes to deal with their angry feelings. The
three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing
one's angry feelings in an assertive-not aggressive-manner is the healthiest way
to express anger. Suppressing, however, is when you hold in your anger, but the
danger is you ranger can turn inward on yourself resulting in high blood
pressure or hypertension. Calming means controlling both your outside responses
(as in expressing) and your inside responses (as in suppressing) through
lowering your heart rate and taking charge of your emotions.

It is
important to note that sometimes, we take our emotions from work to our home or
vice-versa, and as a result, escalate our anger to violence.

In
future segments, we will, Insha Allah, look at various mechanisms/processes for
managing one's anger both from the perspective of modern psychology and of
Islam

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A very interesting text and activity. Thank you, madam

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Thank you Mrs NOR for this relevant topic.

Iused to get:angryOV: and then Sad

WITHOUT directly boxing_ov

or shouting over people whythat-ov

Iused to ask for my rights like anyone should do.Getting older however but still keeping the same principle I know how to control the frustrating situations ironicsmile_ov

Thank you to Allah. victory

Anger is a great force. If you control it, it can be transmuted into a power which can move the whole world.

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Great Mrs.Hopefulwealth!
You are welcome!

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