Dear DZ,
Have you ever
been broken hearted? Did you ever wonder how come a relationship that
last for years and years could end up suddenly, sometimes for no reason?
Here is my point of view about something we know, something we don’t, something we forget and at last, what we want:
- Something we know:
Girls want a man with whom they grow up, study together, fall in love,
get married…and live happily ever after until they die together.
A guy in high school wants a girlfriend;
he may struggle with a fake love until he realizes that there is no
place for a girl/boy friend relationship in DZ...Then he starts to look
for “the one” with whom he will marry.
- Something we don’t know:
There is a little problem which is “age” between the man and the woman.
The average marriage age for DZ men is 30, and 25 for DZ women. The
problem is not here, but it’s in the fact that girls want a guy older
than them with 4 to 5 years, men too! Prefer a 4 to 5 years younger
woman than their age.

It’s logic! Here is an example:
A
couple in university aged 20 both, they study together, may fall in
love…but when they graduate together they are 25! The man should find a
job to make a living, in DZ most guys won’t be able to get married
before the age of 30 unfortunately, so the girl who’s 25 now can’t wait
because she’s started to get older for marriage age so she may accept
another “ready to get married guy” instead of her love.
- Something we forget:
There is something we forget; which is the consequences of a forbidden
love, you may have sweet time, feel a fake love, which is a stolen
happiness…we all know what’s allowed and what’s not (remember what
Cheikh Yacine said in his video…so so much) so for a forbidden act, you
will end up with a broken heart as a punishment.
I call it fake love
because love got 5 languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time,
Gifts, Acts of Service and finally the (Physical Touch which is
forbidden even to touch her hand before marriage), so love in facebook
or phone love is fake.
The real love comes after marriage; when you
pray to God together, when you see how he/she treat your baby…when you
help each other to face problems...it will be like ”two against the
world”. And of course you will be allowed to fulfill the 5 languages of
love.
- Something we want:
- Girls want a successful
man who can afford what it takes to handle a family, I never saw a girl
dreaming with a guy selling onion to be her husband, so please my
sisters, let the guys focus in their study to get a respectful job and
be ready to get married before the age of 30, and please look for a
respectful man, if you want a man who can make of you a princess then I
don’t blame you, “Men always accuse women being materialist! Well I
guess it's right somehow! Fairy tails prove it” (quote said by a girl)
Your wedding won’t be in a beach like you see in that perfect picture,
it will be at home with couscous like usual. So no need to wait forever
for a prince charming.
A girl usually don’t know what she wants, she
may like a guy in her age and wonder if he can make her happy, but she
forget that he can’t marry her at the age of 25, when you’re 20 and not
yet thinking in marriage…you risk to get broken hearted, because your
way of thinking when you’re 25 will change, trust me.
- Guys, I know
you need support to be strong and successful in study and all, but
unfortunately no girl can give you the support you need, they wait for
you to break all the borders in your life “alone” and be ready to get
married…just there, they want you.
Marriage is a right, but
unfortunately it becomes a life time goal in DZ. So don’t lose your time
looking for a girlfriend because she doesn’t exist in DZ, and when you
start looking for “the one” chose a suitable age between you two.

After all, if you start a relation with a boy/girl and marry another,
your life risks being bored because you will compare your husband/wife
with your unforgettable love.
And I finish with a Rolling Stones song: ♫
You can't always get what you want
But if you try sometimes
Well, you might find
You get what you need